The Woman With The Crying Problem

She tried to wipe the tears that seemed to flow endlessly from her eyes, using the face towel in her large purse, she cleaned the tip of her eyes, sobbing slowly about how she couldn’t move on anymore, the obvious reason being the fact that she had suffered enormous heartbreaks, disappointments, and refusals over the past few months. No one wanted to hire her, no one loved her enough to stay or get married to her, no one wanted to lend her money to start her own business, no one wanted to help. So, every day, she would reminisce on all the challenges she had, lay on her bed and cry.

Other days seemed much better, when she had the zeal to watch a tv program or movie that dropped, she would start off okay, with great anticipation then end up in tears when she heard a trigger word or cry along with someone who had a similar challenge as she did, with no job she decided to just hang on to the mere stipends that her parents were still willing to send.

She had become a regular job searcher, knowing all the remote sites online, she had resulted to not trying anymore, to her, there was no reason to keep applying for jobs when she would only get a ‘NO’.

The result of this would become her lack of courage, persistence and hope that one day her story won’t be all tears, her failure to ascertain this would eventually lead her to series of pressure and instability both mentally and financially.

Somedays it was worse, she would place her eyes on social media, and watch the lives of imperfect people travelling the world, showing how their homes looked like, what new stuff they bought, the new business location they just designed and the plenty ‘we outside’ trends. Then she would drop a tear, the tear that reminded her of everything she didn’t have, that she couldn’t afford, that was not within her reach, then she would cry and lay in bed, asking what she had done wrong and why her case was different.

With the tears she had a pass mark, it was an effortless A in the course, even the professor had passed the baton but with persistence and commitment, she had an F, the realization of the battle she faced with her mind and head, the lack of will to go on, to try again and to never give up. Unknowing to her that most of the people who she saw online that made her feel useless had their series of everyday disorders which they did not show on their pages.

She forgets that showing up each day means that there is a chance for winning, because not trying automatically invalidates any opportunity for success.

The woman with the crying problem, waking up each day and drowning her bed sheets with the tears of not having anything worth smiling to, crying at the slightest glimpse of what her boring jobless life looked like, crying because a friend just sent her Asoebi clothes for their wedding that she cannot afford, crying because she just heard another friend had landed a job in a multinational, crying because life hasn’t been so cool.

Alright, I am so much of an emotional person, everyone who knows me well, understands that I tear up almost easily, but tearing up once in a while didn’t stop the process of trying, the last time I checked. It did not mean refusal or negligence to push forward or keep pushing, if that’s how they say it.

The crying woman forgets that failure is part of life but not a definer of life.

She forgets that sometimes focusing on failure too much takes away our minds from the main energy that we should be serving ourselves with, which is the chance of success.

She forgets that crying daily won’t solve the issue, but trying daily would.

She forgets that showing up every single day, making efforts to succeed, and taking small little steps, can go a long way to changing her current situation.

No one said that its going to be easy, I know its quite difficult to just have nothing but life to be thankful for, but life is hope, which means that the sole fact of breathing and living is a continuous chance for success. It will not be easy but waking up with a positive attitude can help you level your energy on actually winning in the end.

So, instead of crying like the woman with a crying problem, instead of waiting on your bed for any such thing as good fortune to appear, the challenge should be showing up each day, taking free courses, applying without loosing hope, reaching out to friends who have taken off on a good foot to help you with their strategies and connects, living according to your means and not trying to impress anyone, thinking about something nice that you can start or a craft that you can learn, because not everyone is going to do the career life.

In moments like this, instead of crying and complaining, tell it to God.

I have found that he is the only person who listens without a shrug, who doesn’t care if you have repeated a request severally, the one who is able to do the impossible just to make you smile. But are you willing to allow his will work in your life? Or are you stuck in the will you have for yourself?

I really don’t want to dive into self-purpose and Alignment with Gods-purpose, maybe some other time. Today however, I hope that the short story I told you would help you understand that trying is far better than being pathetic or living a sad and pathetic life.

Trust me when I say that life revolves around failures, trying and succeeding, but the failures have the greater number, all these people you admire, all these people whom you think have not one flicker of troubles, are also coming from places of hurt, disappointments, betrayals, pain, suffering and lack of their imminent and future desires.

So, the next time you compare your life to them, remember that they may just as well be in the same position as you are, but chose to wake up, have fun and smile.

Being like the woman with the crying problem totally depends on you, but I heavily suggest and would be glad if you never succumb to the atmosphere of ‘giving up’.

I hope I was able to touch you with this story of mine, I hope that you can relate to this and can learn a few things from it. You will find key points/quotes in italic and bold letters. I have attached the podcast version here for you to listen. Kindly like this newsletter, share and comment. It would be lovely to keep the energy going.

Till Next time,

Warm Regards 💕💕
Amanda Sibi.