Saving Your Friendship

Not all friendships deserve to be broken just like that, and whether we try to make good excuses as to why we should let them go, let us examine carefully if what they did is so huge to destroy something worth more than their present actions.

Dear friend, this letter is not about toxic friends or jealous friends or non-supportive friends who we need to do away with, this letter is about your friends who you know love you truly but can be very annoying sometimes. The ones that do things that can get on your nerves sometimes but you know care for you deeply.

Now this is the thing, sometimes when we take these little trivialities too serious, we tend to sour our good friendships, we almost stop thinking good about them and loving them wholeheartedly, and in turn result to side talks and comments.

What I suggest, is to tell your friends where and when they have hurt you or done something you don’t like, which can help them act better. Supposing that they know it all is like expecting perfection, and no one is perfect.  

Sometimes it’s not easy to do this friendship thing, but if you would agree, there are certain people in your life that has made it easy and less stressful, people who show you true love, care and support. Those who criticize you with love, the ones that would stand for you even when you are not there.

So, I guess that when such people offend us or exhibit attitudes that we do not like, we can make the effort to make them understand how we feel, in a loving manner or look past it, if this is something that can slide.

Imagine letting go of a beautiful friendship because of the other persons inability to keep to time or because of their nosiness and over curious nature, which may be just part of how they were raised, what I think you can do in cases like this among other little things is to just sigh and laugh when they bring it on. Maybe you answer sarcastically and say “you and your curiosity, I don’t know” and laugh over it once more.

Do you know why I said laugh over it? I have found from my personal experience that there are certain things that shouldn’t be said with a straight and formal face because it can pass the wrong information.

Dear friend, I know that you may have certain friendships you wish never to talk about, just like me, I have certain friendships that I term ‘past friendships’ even though I wish them great things from afar. Like me, you may have the terrible ones that you don’t feel good about, and that is alright because I cannot denigrate your feelings. However, I am writing to you about the friends who truly have shown their love for you but can be petty and annoying some times.

Maybe little differences here and there, have made you feel indifferent towards them, but before you end it, please read this newsletter again and have an open mind towards the reasons why you may want to do away with such people.

Lastly, maybe lack of inclusion is another reason you may want to let go, maybe the fact that they don’t tell you everything happening, and sincerely sometimes they are having a hard time telling themselves too, so being angry with them does not really cut it. I may be wrong if your case is different and more complicated, but this is how I can explain these trivialities best.

Dear friend, here’s a question for you, feel free to comment or send a reply mail if its exclusive.

Do you think there are trivial issues that should not be let go of?

How can you communicate to the other person without offending them, especially when they hear one thing and term it another?

Kindly answer these questions and lets all learn from different views. I have attached the podcast version to this letter, keep the energy going by sharing and hitting the like button.

Till Next Time
Warm Regards,

Amanda Sibi.