Not Everyone is fit to go on the journey with you

And it doesn't make them evil.

Hey dear friend, I have missed you so much, most importantly, I have missed sharing my thoughts with you and checking up on you. These past few weeks have been the ‘go take care of yourself strike for me’, I came down with fever and the likes and I couldn’t write to you, but I am back and better now. Well, just in time for the Christmas celebration. So, Merry Christmas and a happy New year in advance.

Today, I would like to send you a letter that I couldn’t complete because of my illness. However, I guess this time of ‘take care of your health’ gave me more reflections and ability to gather the right words. ‘

So, here they are;

Do we ever talk about seasonal people and the reason God has placed them in our lives, we understand that sometimes many people come and go in our lives, there are acquaintances for the meantime, friends that fall off when they are supposed to and even family that are there for the while, it really doesn’t mean they are bad people or hate us, but that what they carry isn’t fit for the future you are predestined to have, so they fall off just like egg shells, off they go to reveal the real you.

I know you are wondering why this is, but even Jesus Christ had to let go of his disciples so that he could fulfil God’s purpose for his life and that’s why you see that he could succeed in his mission, maybe his disciples could have drawn him back and made him not get crucified. I am sure that in today’s world, you won’t stand by and watch your friend get crucified to save this world, but Jesus knew all these, so he did what needed to be done, when it was time, he let them off.

Not everyone needs to go through the journey of life with you, some people came for a reason and once that reason is completed, then they will go, sometimes we are hard headed to see through life and what God wants for us and how he wants our circle to end up, we beat ourselves up when certain people leave our lives but if we are truthful, we will understand that they have played their part and need to be on their way, maybe to fulfill their own destiny or to even reflect their purpose positively or negatively on those who let them in.

And this doesn’t mean that we should carelessly push people away from our lives or that when we wrong people that don’t wish to have us in their lives anymore, we should not feel that we have done something or lost a tangible person, on the contrary, this message is far from that.

There are also people who come into our lives to help us temporarily, to build us, to establish us, to create a purpose and a mark. Those people don’t stay too long, they are there on a mission and once its completed, they move on and expect us to stand strong. I remember most people in my life who I necessarily don’t talk to every single day now, but once upon a time, we were in each other’s faces, these were the people who God used to push my hands on the paper, to keep writing, to find a career in this work of mine, to never give up and most importantly, the creation of the brand name; Amanda Sibi.

My respect for these set of people is unwavering and even though we are not in the zone of everyday familiarity anymore, I understand now that their purpose in my life was to build up something in me that the world would come to appreciate and honor. That their role was played and just like eggshells, they came off to reveal the real me.

Some people are also not strong enough to handle the big dreams that need to be accomplished in your life, they do not fit in and with that singular indifference, they can pull you down instead of help you move forward, so the balance is stable only if you drop them. Some people will need to let go of your hand in order to allow you take the wheel and drive the purpose of your life through.

The purpose of your life is to reach a certain goal, to fulfill certain dreams and live them, but I tell you my friend that you may be sad from the past because there are certain people you thought would be with you today, maybe a friend, family member or even someone whom you were in a relationship with, but because they fell out with you doesn’t make them evil or bad, it also doesn’t mean that you can’t keep relationships, so don’t be hard on yourself. It could mean that they have played their parts, whether good or bad and have to be on their way.

Ever prayed before and asked God to disassociate you from people who don’t fit in his plan for you?

Well, most times we get afraid when most people leave us but what we forget is that maybe the room was too hot for them, maybe the fire we were carrying didn’t permit them to stay too close, maybe the purpose was too strong that it didn’t want them to drag us down. Maybe it was predestined to be this way, to let go of them and to move forward.

I personally do not feel that everyone who leaves is as a result of their being bad people, but what if they are bad for us and we for them? What if our energies don’t align and what if the connection, we have with each other has a timeline to it, one that will expire when the time is right?

There I was, seated on a shallow pavement in my former resident home, and listening to this warm song from Adele, my ‘wish I could meet you singer’ and the tears fell like easy running water. I remembered few people who were more or less like family that all of a sudden turned off the button and a strict formal negative tone that I couldn’t just imagine set in. Now, what I couldn’t fathom at that time but do now, is the fact that how could people change all of a sudden.

What I do fathom now is that people change and that’s because they live in a world that is a lover of change.

I came to realize that their purpose in my life had come to an end, that the tenure was over and this didn’t necessarily make me hate them or detest them, rather, it made me understand why they acted the ways they did.

One thing I would never condone is to make excuses for people who were manipulative to you, so pardon me if this letter makes you feel weird for resenting some certain persons. But dear friend, until what end? I know you have heard a lot about forgiveness from me, but that’s who I am, fighting off demons that affect me and you.

Why?

Because when we forgive those who left us or ceased to be in our lives and forgive ourselves too, we gain more clarity on why they had to be there for the time being. We understand why they couldn’t keep up the race with us, why they had to stop and call it in.

I remember some people too, who were never meant to walk the walk with me, who were dream killers, the ones that told me that writing wasn’t a career choice, the ones that used every opportunity they got to discredit my talents especially in front of others and to magnify theirs. Thing is, I am sure you may have felt this one way or the other, the lack of support and encouragement.

But what about it?

That’s why they couldn’t keep up track, because they had to fall off and let the real you shine forth.

But I assure you that not every story is like this, you may not have had people who left you because they hurt you or did something awful. Maybe you had the ones who had a purpose to lift you out of the burden that you may have been facing. The ones who were there just at the nick of time.

I call that purpose.

And when they are done, they move away just like the wind.

Surely, not everyone is fit for the journey ahead, you may drop some, pick up some and stay with some till the very end. But while you do, I implore you to show some faith and not push people away just because you feel they are egg shells needed to be cracked up and thrown away.

This letter was intentional and I truly hope that its meaning and entirety wasn’t far from the truth.

Dear friend, in this season of Christmas and the celebration of the birth of Christ Jesus, I beg to spread the narrative that love is God and God is Love. And that when we embody love, we become as Christ, not living in perfection but just wearing the image of the son of God. So, in this season and time, kindly spread some love, even a sweet message to someone would help, even a bread on an empty plate could do, even water for the thirsty soul.

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Till Next Time,

Warm Regards
Amanda Sibi