It’s Hard to Forgive!
Forgiveness isn’t about the person who wronged you, its about how it makes you feel burdened and weighty…Now, that’s a very heart surging and draining feeling!
Dear friend, I trust your week has been great and awesome like mine. I hope you have also been able to read my last letter to you and digest the nitty gritty of what it opined to preach.
I guess we can all attest to the fact that forgiveness is not an easy tale, while you may fall into the group of persons who would not wish to even forgive at all, you may also fall into the group that believes in the ‘an eye for an eye’ treat.
I can’t judge you!
But let me persuade you differently, just incase you have no passion to ever treat forgiveness like a subject.
I once carried a grudge in my heart that it felt so heavy for years, if you are a long-time subscriber, you may have read about this in one of my letters about forgiveness. But this is different, I mean my letter for today isn’t about the story behind why I chose to treat forgiveness with so much importance. It is about you and I, and the burden of anger, hate and tension we may probably be hurting from just because we refused to let go.
Some people don’t even know they have wronged you; some do and still feign ignorance because their excuse was so perfect and their reasons were so justifiable and that’s why their actions should be commended and not looked down on or even belittled. That’s what painful most times to you, the fact that someone hurt you and can’t even come to terms with the fact that they are truly sorry, the fact that even when you lend the hand of peace, they cut you off with a long knife that should have probably been kept away in a museum, the other fact that even when you apologize first, they still want you to growl and kneel and beg and keep begging till they are satisfied. So, when they don’t get this from you, they react in mean and awful ways and just become so vile, that you wonder if you truly knew them at all or if they have even ever found God.
So, I get it dear friend, the fact that someone you even never wronged just decided to hate you for no reason, for hearsay or because they can’t stand your light!
Still, here I am saying that you should forgive and let go?
Dear friend, I am of the opinion that nothing is too important to steal your peace, let alone something that has to do with the way someone acted towards you or what you cared about. I feel that no matter what happened in the past, your present and future should not have a taste of such bitterness.
I always love to talk about God and Jesus and how he died for us all while we were yet sinners.
Someone who doesn’t believe in Christ on Instagram said that ‘he didn’t ask Jesus to die for him’ and I just smiled and prayed in my heart for his soul.
Truth is that none of us did, we didn’t know him enough to tell him to take it all on our behalf but he knew us even before we were born. Jesus Christ died for us so that we may have life, and I don’t mean the literal life here on earth, because this is not our home. (Permit me to not sway into a different topic, maybe some other time) But he gave us life, the one filled with passion for the things of God and just enough to choose if we want to be his own.
So, we were forgiven, and every day when we hurt Jesus with our actions, we take him back to that cross and make him forgive us by dying all over again. Yet, he still loves us no matter what we do or don’t do.
I know you are not Jesus but didn’t he say we should live like him? Now, you don’t even need to die a physical death to forgive someone, you just need to die the hard and hateful feelings, to die the anger, to die the cursing and abusive words, the quarrels and battering, to die the backbiting, to die the bitterness and evil. To die without loosing yourself. The only time that word ever made sense!
So, you forgive first because that’s what Jesus will do. And if you don’t believe in Jesus (I hope you do some day and understand that he loves you endlessly) you can also forgive because of the peace it brings to you when you can finally feel no anguish when the name of that person is mentioned in a room or when you see them.
So, you forgive because it would alleviate the stress you put on your heart
So, you forgive because you need to be at peace with all men
So, you forgive because you need peace
So, you forgive because you can’t stand the burden it weighs on your heart
So, you forgive because you can’t keep carrying this heavy load
So, you forgive because you need to focus on better things
So, you forgive because life is too fickle to let a silly grudge drown you forever
So, you forgive because you need to feel lighter
So, you forgive because you its not worth it
So, you forgive because you derive a greater energetic feeling not holding down to the weakness that comes with keeping a grudge!
Dear friend, I don’t know what happened. I cannot tell from just writing you this letter, but what I know is that you can let go, you can decide to not be bitter anymore and just move on. This doesn’t mean that you need to be on the same level playing ground with this person or persons, but that you have forgiven enough to wish them well and pray for them.
You may have these people in your life right now, but you don’t wish to reach out, you may have even concluded on the wrong reasons, you may have gone overboard as a child of God, you may have done too much and can’t seem to just bring yourself to do the right thing.
All I wish for you at this point is that you let go and just make things right. If you can’t reach out, please forgive, move on and keep living your life because that is the only thing that matters.
Malice is an enabler of hate!
An unforgiving heart is a heart that doesn’t love God!
Dear friend, I hope this letter touched you just as it touched me, I meant to make it as short as possible and bring you this message as it lingered in my soul. So, while you read it, please pay attention to the message in this letter and not the wrong that you experienced.
It was really great sending you this letter; I wish you a favorable week ahead.
Lots of love….
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Till Next Time,
Warm regards,
Amanda Sibi.